How to Get What You Want
Your career isn’t built by waiting for someone to notice your value. It’s built by learning how to advocate for yourself with confidence.
You’ve been told your work will speak for itself. Yet despite doing everything asked of you—and more—you’re still feeling overlooked and uncertain about your next step. Leadership isn’t just about managing a team; it’s navigating the complexities of internal relationships and consistently advocating for your growth.
On Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok is your silent partner, empowering you with the mindset and tools to negotiate your career—and life—with intention.
Unlike podcasts that focus on climbing the ladder or hustle culture, this show is for women who want to own their careers authentically. You’ll learn practical strategies for everyday negotiations, from asking for what you deserve to confidently handling tough conversations. Because negotiation isn’t just for raises or promotions—it’s how you navigate every opportunity in your career and beyond.
Susie is a negotiation expert who understands the challenges of being in a male-dominated industry and the struggles women face when advocating for themselves. She’s helped countless professionals unlock their potential and will show you how to do the same.
If you’re ready to stop waiting for your career to happen to you and start creating the opportunities you want, hit follow and join Susie each week to build your confidence, advocate for yourself, and finally Get What You Want.
Episodes
163 episodes
How to Receive Feedback and Actually Use It
Last week we talked about how to give feedback that actually lands. This week, we’re flipping it. Are you getting the kind of feedback that helps you grow? And more importantly, are you using it?The higher you go in your career, the hard...
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Episode 164
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13:43
How to Give Feedback That Actually Lands
Giving feedback isn’t the hard part. Making sure it actually lands is where most leaders fall short. If you’re not checking how your message is received or if you're only speaking up when something goes wrong, your feedback might be doing more ...
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Episode 163
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16:12
What Would Happen If You Couldn’t Fail? with Karen Ansen
Getting what you want isn’t always about asking for more. Sometimes it starts with unlearning everything that told you not to.Karen Ansen didn’t follow the traditional career path. She became a lawyer in her 40s, built her own firm, and ...
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Episode 162
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24:47
Delegation Is a Leadership Skill, Not a Task Dump
If you think delegation is just about getting things off your plate, I want to challenge that. When done well, it’s a strategy for leadership, trust, and growth. But most of us fall into the habit of doing too much, holding on too long, or chec...
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Episode 161
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17:49
The Space Between Ambition and Readiness with Jessica Delis
Some people need a nudge to raise their hand. Others have to learn when to wait. But what happens when ambition outpaces readiness? In this conversation with my friend and seasoned operations leader Jessica Delis, we explore the tension between...
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Episode 160
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19:02
Are Your Emotions Getting in the Way of What You Want?
You can have a solid plan. You can know exactly what you want to say. And still, in the moment, emotions take over. Your body tightens, your brain fogs, and suddenly you’re second-guessing everything.We all get hijacked like this. Even t...
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Episode 159
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18:37
Get Out of Your Head and Into the Room
Ever walk into a meeting and immediately lose your footing, even though you were completely prepared? There’s a reason for that. Too many of us focus only on what we’re going to say, not where we’re saying it or who a...
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Episode 158
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20:31
What’s on Your To-Don’t List? with Monisha Longacre
Getting what you want doesn’t start with doing more. It starts with knowing what matters and letting go of what doesn’t.This week I’m joined by my friend Monisha Longacre, author of Practical Productivity and founder of Productivity 101....
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Episode 157
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27:18
What To Do When Feedback Feels Wrong
Not all feedback is helpful. Sometimes it's vague. Sometimes it's self-serving. And sometimes it hits a nerve even when it doesn't feel true. If you’ve ever been told something like "you're not strategic enough" and didn’t know how to respond, ...
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Episode 156
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21:45
Are You Communicating Like an Executive?
Ever walked away from a conversation with a senior leader and wondered, did they even hear me? It’s not just what you say that matters. It’s how you say it, when you say it, and whether you’ve thought about what they need from you. Exe...
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Episode 155
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25:58
Always be Ready to RAISE Your Hand with Cerys Goodall
We wait. For permission. For someone to notice. For the timing to be right. But the truth is, your career doesn’t move forward just because you’re doing great work. It moves when you opt in.Cerys Goodall, COO of Vetster, knows t...
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Episode 154
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35:08
What Happens When You Don’t Fill the Silence?
Ever notice how fast you jump in to fill a quiet moment? But what if silence isn’t something to avoid, it’s something to use. In this episode, I’m digging into why silence might be the most powerful thing you don’t say. Whether you’re negotiati...
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Episode 153
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23:40
Deal-Making in the Hallway
We tend to picture negotiations happening in boardrooms, but the real opportunities? They show up in hallways, at the end of meetings, in the quiet moments when you're not quite ready but should be. If you're not clear on what you want or how t...
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Episode 152
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18:28
Why Clarity Beats “Put Me In, Coach” with Seyka Mejeur
You know that temptation to say “I’ll do anything” when you’re ready for something new? My guest today, Seyka Mejeur, is here to challenge that thinking. As the CEO of an executive search firm placing technical leaders in space and climate, Sey...
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Episode 151
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29:43
It’s Not About Luck; It’s About Looking
Think someone else just “got lucky” with that big opportunity? I used to believe that too. Until I started paying attention. In this episode, I’m sharing what really sets opportunity-spotters apart. It’s not magic. It’s not hustle. It’s observa...
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Episode 150
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14:12
This Is What Gets You the Raise
You’ve got the experience. You’re delivering results. So why does asking for more still feel... off? Today I’m talking about the internal blockers that hold us back from advocating for ourselves, especially when it comes to money, promotions, o...
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Episode 149
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21:15
What If the Meeting Goes Sideways?
You walk into a high stakes conversation certain you’ll get a green light. One curveball later, you’re staring at a “maybe” or, worse, a flat out no. Today I’m sharing why relying on optimism alone keeps us stuck and how a few minutes of strate...
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Episode 148
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26:21
Live in Your Strengths Everyday with Dana Williams
You’ve hit your goals, earned the title, maybe even built a strong team. But it still doesn’t quite feel like you. Let’s talk about why that happens and what to do about it.I sat down with my friend Dana Williams to talk about what it re...
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Episode 147
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24:20
Are These 3 Mental Traps Costing You in Negotiations?
You walk in ready to ask for 92K. They offer 80, and suddenly you're countering at 85. What just happened? Your brain got anchored. In this episode, I’m unpacking three subtle mindset traps that can derail you in a negotiation. Whether you're n...
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Episode 146
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21:06
The Real Reason You're Holding Back From Getting What You Want
You know that moment when you want to raise your hand, share your idea, or say yes to something that scares you, but you don’t? In this episode, I’m digging into what’s actually happening in those moments and why your brain thinks it’s helping ...
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Episode 145
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19:48
The Secret Power of Storytelling in Negotiation
You know those moments when logic and facts just aren’t cutting it? That’s where story comes in. Stories connect. They soften resistance, bring people into your world, and shift conversations in a way that facts alone can’t.In this episo...
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Episode 144
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22:07
Stop Avoiding Conflict and Start Leading Through It with Ursula Taylor
Avoiding conflict might feel like the safest move, but it often leads to confusion, disconnection, and missed opportunities. Conflict is part of leadership. What matters is how you choose to engage with it.In this episode, I’m joined by ...
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Episode 143
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28:53
Situational Awareness = Your Secret Super‑Power
Ever walk into a high-stakes meeting thinking you're ready, only to realize too late that you missed the moment? That was me, on a packed airport train, suddenly thrown into a deal conversation I had no business leading.In this episode, ...
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Episode 142
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21:54
What Do They Really Want?
The stakes of a negotiation are usually obvious. But the interests, the things that actually matter to the other person but never make it into the contract, are often overlooked. And when that happens, both sides lose.In this episode, I’...
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Episode 141
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26:08
Tired Decisions Are Bad Decisions
If you're making decisions just to get them off your plate, you're not making good ones. When mental fatigue sets in, clarity goes out the window, and that’s when bad calls happen. You think you’re being productive, but really, you’re just tryi...
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Episode 140
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22:41